A New Challenge

We barely had time to revel in our new found debt-free status before the next leg of our journey began. We intended to move on to Baby Step #3 which is a fully-funded emergency savings to cover 3-6 months of expense, but from November 2007 to February 2008 our progression was very slow.

Then we received the letter. It was an official letter from my husband’s workplace, Ford Motor Company, informing him that he was on layoff notice. We didn’t know what to think. On one hand we were happy and vindicated that our sense of urgency to get out of debt was definitely part of God’s plan to preserve us during a time of global economic distress, but on the other, we were unsure of what the future held for us. During this time of questioning and uncertainty I would sing the words of a praise song that is dear to me.

“He didn’t bring us out this far to let us go back again...

He brought us out to bring us into the promised land!

Though there be giants in the land, we need not be afraid,

He brought us out to bring us into the promised land!”

I clung to these words as though they were a personal promise to me alone. God did not motivate and bless us in our total money makeover just to allow us to be plunged into financial disaster before we had even had a chance to enjoy the fruit of our labour.

In the natural however, our future looked precarious. Shawn’s job was our bread and butter. My small home business was growing steadily...but slowly. This was largely because instead of investing in traditional advertising and promotion, I was funnelling as much of my business income as possible towards our financial goals. I knew that now it was time to step out in advertising.

Unsure of what to do next, I went back to my knees in prayer and extended fasting as I had the year before. We needed guidance in how to promote my home fitness studio, what to do about Shawn’s job and we needed a good dose of hope.

We didn’t have to wait long for an answer. Just a day or two into the fast we received word that our son, Trysten, had been approved by Revenue Canada for a Disability Tax Credit that was back-dated 5 years. I had been persuaded by a child development specialist to send in the application over 6 months earlier and it took until that very week to be approved. We learned at that time that the amount of that tax credit and our subsequent income tax refund would cover the entire amount needed for Baby Step #3!

I was actively researching advertising strategies during this time and I priced one of Windsor’s local business magazines called Windsor Life. When I learned the cost of advertising in this particular magazine, I tried to cancel the appointment that the editor had scheduled with me. He convinced me to meet with him and during the appointment he informed me that he features all new businesses for free. I got a small place in the new business section for no cost at all.

Shawn was still on layoff notice, but this sequence of events significantly boosted our faith that God was in control and would continue to take care of us. We received the blessings and took care to sow seed into our church and into the lives of others who we knew were in need. We resolved to continue our journey in preparation of the changes that were sure to come our way. Whatever God had planned, the extraordinary provision He had made for us made us realize that it was going to be big!

We're Debt-Free!

The final months before our lifetime of financial bondage came to an end were like the adrenaline-filled sprinting moments after a tiring race. We found energy and focus that we didn’t know we were capable of. Every extra dollar that we did not need to live went in extra payments toward our final and largest debt. We
went through our home in late autumn and literally stripped pictures off the walls. Our motto was that if we didn’t absolutely need or “love” it—we would sell it. We were reassured in our hearts that we would be able to afford to replace these physical possessions later in God’s timing but nothing could equal the value of “owing no man”.

I made a heart-rending decision to sell scrapbook supplies that I had been holding on to for almost 8 years. By contacting former scrapbooking customers, current dealers and taking part in a scrapbook “yard sale” I was able to liquidate a vast amount of my supply and contribute over $1000 to our goals. It was amazing to me how good it felt afterwards to let go of an item on my to-do list that was weighing me down. De-cluttering will do that.

It was November 23rd, exactly 11 months after our journey began, that we paid the last dollar on the last debt except for our mortgage. We were beyond ecstatic!

I’ll never forget the first few months afterwards. Everything felt new to me. Every day brought an experience that I would compare to a previous one during which we were enslaved to monthly payments and I would rejoice. Our first Christmas…our first vacation…our first anything without debt was better than I could have ever imagined it to be. “I’ve never done this before” became a daily reminder of God’s mercy towards us. Saving up for and paying for things with money we actually had was absolutely novel experience for us.

The intriguing thing about victory is that it has the power to erase much of the agony and tears we experience to gain it. I’m glad we don’t have to live such a spartan lifestyle now, but I would do it again in a heartbeat to achieve the reward of being a free person.

The funny thing is that in all those months of toiling, we never listened to Dave Ramsey’s radio show and thus were unaware that callers are invited to share their success and finish their testimony by yelling in Braveheart fashion “We’re Debt-Free!” I have since been enlightened but by then the moment had passed and we were on to the next Baby Step. I have decided that on the day that my mortgage is paid off, I will definitely make
that call to Dave!

Thank you Jesus for your graciousness and mercy to those who repent of foolishness and follow after wisdom!

The Last Blessing?

Yesterday, I shared about “Blowing Up the Log Jam” which detailed a painful, but helpful and freeing step in my family’s debt-reduction process. Today, I am sharing a much brighter story that brings a smile every time I remember it.

Just over seven months into our Total Money Makeover commitment the strain of living in our self-imposed strict budget was beginning to wear on me significantly. I wanted things. My “wish list” was growing and it seemed the possibility of fulfillment of any of my desires was never going to happen. I was daily praying for our needs and wants and was reminding myself almost hourly that all I really needed was Jesus. I asked for the Lord to reveal himself to me and to change my passions and desires so that material things wouldn’t matter so much. “All I need is you, all I need is you…” was my fervent response when I was reminded of all the things I wanted out of life.

One particularly absurd but strong desire was for a cute, little dog. We never had much success with pets and after a string of bad experiences I had finally decided that we were not a family cut out to care for an animal. I was adamant about this but suddenly having a cute, needy, little dog was first and foremost on my mind. This desire grew and I began to talk about it. It seemed like everyone in our neighborhood had a dog and they stood out to me everywhere!

Finally one day we stopped at a pet store to look at the puppies. I didn’t know what breed of dog I wanted but assured my family that I would know when I saw it. I stopped at a cage that had two Yorkie puppies in it and knew instantly that this was the breed of my “pet parenthood” dreams. My son & daughter were as enraptured as I was and we asked to hold one. My husband who is gifted with objectivism asked the store worker the question I dreaded most.

“How much?”

When the worker answered, my husband turned and left the store without a word. My children & I hastily returned the puppy to its cage and followed. My tears flowed freely as my husband reminded me of the commitment we had made, the journey we were on and all the other reasons why spending that much money on a dog was a bad idea. I didn’t disagree with him. He was right. I was despondent because I didn’t know what to do with the desire that had taken firm root in my mind.

Shawn asked me an important question. “Do you think God wants to bless you with a dog?”

“No.” was my tearful answer.

Why would God care one way or another if I got a cute, little dog? There are starving children in other countries and needs way greater than mine…even in a strict budget…no, I didn’t believe for one minute that my desire to have a dog would register with God. My patient husband encouraged me to be obedient to our goals and believe that God would bless me with my desire for a puppy. He also reminded me that pet store prices are extremely inflated and that getting a pet from a private breeder would likely cost much less.

“But I liked that one!” I protested.

"You will like another one just the same” he admonished me.

I spoke with my mother later that day and she reinforced my husband’s reasoning. We located a private
breeder who was selling puppies for ¼ the price of the pet store, but God had not provided the income so we were stuck.

I eventually got to a place where I relinquished my desire in prayer with many tears but with a strong sense that this decision was going to influence my future. Was it going to be God’s way or mine? I called the breeder and left a message saying that we didn’t think we could commit to purchasing the puppy and to find another buyer.

The very next day we left for a family reunion. I wasn’t relishing the travel out of town but it was the first family gathering since the death of my paternal Grandmother and I knew that this was an important event for us to attend. We knew we’d have fun when we got there but we had to resolve to enjoy the drive as a family and not get stressed out on the way. We listened to the audio book “Celebration of Discipline” and talked about what God was doing in our lives and our dreams for the future. It was a beautiful day.

At the reunion I got in a deep conversation with one of my aunts and I shared with her the miracle that God was performing in our life through the Total Money Makeover and all the amazing provisions He had made for us along the way. I wasn’t sure how truly interested my aunt was in my story but I was excited and I wanted to tell anyone who would listen to me.

My aunt got a funny look on her face as she listened to me wrap up my story. She was smiling in a sneaky; I know something you don’t know kind of way that instantly made me stop and ask her what was going on. She shared that they had been planning on waiting until later but since I had been talking about financial breakthroughs they might as well let us know now.

As I shared previously, I had received an inheritance from my paternal grandmother. My aunt shared that the sum we had received was only the insurance portion. They had wrapped up her estate, paid taxes and now they were divvying up the money the same way they had previously. My uncle handed me a cheque that amounted to more than what we had received previously. I wasn’t expecting this. I had no idea. I went over to my husband who was swimming at the time and showed him the gift.

“Do you think this will cover the cost of the puppy?” I asked mischievously.

We enjoyed our family time and we talked like excited children all the way home. There was enough finances to wipe out a significant portion of our family debt, buy a few needs and even a couple wants like an adorable, new puppy and a mini-vacation for the family, but most importantly…to give.

We recognized during that delirious ride home that if we held on to every penny of that gift like it was going to be the last blessing we were going to receive, it very well could be. I recognized that God wants to bless us with every good thing but He also needs to know that He has our heart first.

I used to write my Grandma a letter after every birthday to tell her about my life and how I used the gift of money she gave me in my annual birthday card. This was the final gift she ever gave me and I know that she would rejoice over the good it has done.

Lastly, our cute, little dog named Milo has ended our curse of bad pets. She has been a blessing to me and my family for 2 ½ years now and we couldn’t imagine a better outcome. She wins the hearts of all who meet her. I even got to spend more than a year at home with her before I began working full-time for OBFF and she adjusted to my new full-time work schedule beautifully. God is so good and I think He might just have a weakness for Yorkies too.

Blowing Up the Logjam

Dave Ramsey shares in his book “The Total Money Makeover” that sometimes when we have done all that we can do, we can lose debt reduction momentum because there are no more budget cuts to make and no more sources of income to tap. It is as though the entire process is frozen because the pace is tediously slow. At this point, he encourages his listeners to blow up the logjam. This terminology originates from the logging industry where trees are cut and rolled into a river so the current can sweep them to the mill where they will be sold. Sometimes, the logs get jammed in the river and the only way to un-jam them is to use a little dynamite. The explosion destroys some of the logs in the process but the end result iss that the majority of the logs make it to market when the river flow is restored. The whole idea is that while some loss is incurred, the overall goal is achieved.

I came to understand this concept personally when we found our own debt-reduction at a standstill. It was several months into our plan and we were at a financial impasse. We had achieved great progress but we still had a long ways to go. We were jammed.

I was attending our church‟s financial class on Wednesday nights. To be honest, I was a little bored. I had listened to Dave Ramsey‟s book several times and knew the Baby Steps. I was intimately acquainted with everything being taught and I didn't need further convincing. I was tempted many times to skip the class but something made me keep going in hopes that I would learn something…anything…that would help us in our journey.

On one particularly tedious evening we were discussing Baby Step #4 which explains retirement and education savings. Part of me was zoning out because we were still on baby step #2 “The Debt Snowball” and retirement savings felt like a lifetime away. I had prayed before I went to class that God would reveal something to me that would help us in our situation and He was faithful to my prayers.

A light bulb went on. We had put a little RRSP contributions away through Shawn's work and we had been diligent to set up education savings accounts for each of our children when they were born. What if we could access that money and apply it to our debt? I discussed this with my husband and he was resistant at first because he couldn't see past the short-term loss. We talked about the logjam concept, prayed, did a little research and found out that we weren‟t going to lose as much as we thought in the process.

This is not the ideal thing to do as any investment broker will tell you and it didn't give us warm, fuzzy feelings. Instead it drove home the impact of our imperfect financial stewardship. I am strongly opposed to doing this unless you are fully committed to all the steps of the Total Money Makeover which will direct you to rebuild these savings in the future. We were committed and this was the right step for us to take. It propelled us toward the overall goal we were set on achieving.

This lesson applies to more than just money. Sometimes we have to take a couple steps backward because we have not acted wisely, waited for God's timing, or have built on a bad foundation. If God directs us to take a loss and we are obedient with the right motivation and stay committed to the process, we can be assured that He will restore all.

Practical Applications

I have been sharing all the wonderful blessings, great & small, that God bestowed on our family when we repented of our spending habits and began a Dave Ramsey inspired “Total Money Makeover”. Today I am
going to share what that repentance looked like as we endeavored to reverse the damage to our finances.

1) Enrolled Children in Public School-I am in favor of Christian education but because of our poor choices early in our marriage, we could not afford the schooling we wanted to give our children. We realized that no amount of godly tutoring would reverse the negative home life we were creating with our heavy work schedules, debt load and the resulting relationship issues.

2) Quit job-I don’t recommend this as a debt-reduction technique, but in this case it was a beneficial decision that enabled me to focus my efforts on saving our household money and building a home business.

3) Started Home Business-I had a mind-set that needed to be broken. I thought no-one would take me seriously if my business didn’t “look” professional right from the start. I had an aversion to starting small and growing slow. I learned how to “be” professional and offer my services at the level I could afford.

4) Cancelled Cell Phone Contract-It didn’t make sense to keep a cell phone when I was now working from home, but we had to pay a hefty cancellation fee to our service provider to get out of the contract. We did the math and it still saved us money to pay and walk away.

5) Gave Away Vehicle-Working from home enabled us to cut a vehicle and all its associated expenses.

6) Sought God with Prayer & Fasting-I will always treasure the many months I had during my career transition to pray and fast before the Lord. I experienced humility and brokenness, but as I sought the Lord, He showed Himself as my provider. This was by far the sweetest time in my relationship with God.

7) Tight Grocery Budget-I did everything they say to do. I planned meals that were made from scratch, made grocery lists and shopped with a calculator. We prepared and ate recipes based on beans & rice. The funniest idea I ever came up with was to buy a goat in an effort to save money on milk. I priced goats and determined that the $80 price would be recouped within 2 months. Fortunately Shawn opposed the idea and we never followed through!

8) Eliminated Paper Products-Not only is this a money-saving technique but it’s good for the environment too. I found we could use cloth rags for cleaning, cloth napkins for dining and old fashioned “hankies” for blowing our noses. I never did find an alternative for toilet paper!

9) Planted a Garden-This was a great way to save money and we enjoyed a variety of home grown, chemical-free vegetables

10) Sold Fitness Music-I let go of the past and sold all my professional fitness music & choreography.

11) Sold Craft Supplies-I had scrapbook supplies from a previous business venture that I had been holding on to for almost 8 years without using! I networked with dealers and friends and was able to sell my hoarded supplies for over $1000. It hurt at first, but then I realized how much that stuff was burdening me down with guilt over not using it.

12) Sold Trailer-This was a family sacrifice. We had a modest trailer that we had refinished and only used once. It was our dream family vacation. Trouble was, we didn’t have a vehicle to tow it. It sat beside our home for a couple years and was only used to hide Christmas presents. We decided to put it up for sale, but it didn’t look like we were going to find a buyer.

13) Sowed Shawn’s Bonus Pay-My husband worked for one of the big three automakers at the time and every July we enjoyed a pay bonus. It would have made sense to use it to pay off our debt but as we prayed about how to utilize it, we felt strongly that we were to sow it into WCF’s annual Abba offering instead. Remember, giving is a vital part of a total money makeover. We were obedient and the very next day, our trailer sold for a fair price.

14) Volunteered at Professional Conference-As an employee of a large fitness company I was provided a very costly conference registration for free and was accustomed to sharing a nice hotel room on the conference premises with co-workers. I couldn’t afford the conference registration on my own so I volunteered and instead of a hotel, I stayed at a relative’s apartment. It was a character-building experience to serve my previous co-workers as they enjoyed the conference in the style I was accustomed to, but I knew my volunteer experience was going to play a part in my future. I just didn’t know it would be with OBFF!

15) No Christmas Gift Exchanges-We called our relatives and explained what we were doing. We asked to be excluded from all gift exchanges. It was the only year that we had to do that but we used the experience to teach our children more fully the true meaning of the season. We were humbled and blessed when certain relatives chose to give us gifts anyway.

16) Children’s Expenses-Any parent knows that the many requests for money to fund children’s events can be huge budget busters. We sat our children down and explained what we were doing and what their sacrifice would be. If they wanted to enjoy a food day at school, they would have to use their limited chore money or bring a lunch from home. We would do our best to provide for field trips. It broke my heart on the few occasions they ate a packed lunch while their class enjoyed pizza. I cried when we declined a field trip that was beyond our means and the school used special funds to include our children anyway. I will never forget how that felt.

17) Sold “Stuff”-We had a garage sale, advertised on Kijiji, and auctioned on Ebay. We went through the house and if it didn’t get used or we didn’t absolutely love it, we liquidated the item.

A girlfriend came to visit during this time and she was stunned at some of the changes we had made. She exclaimed in amazement that one day she expected to come over and find our electricity disconnected, us cooking in our fireplace and washing clothes by hand. We laughed until we cried because even though we didn’t have immediate plans to do those things, it was true that we might come to consider them if we had to. We were going to do whatever it took (legally of course) to break the bond of debt over our life and we weren’t sparing ourselves any discomfort or humiliation.

I thank God that disconnecting our electricity was never needed. We were blessed in extraordinary ways. We can laugh about those days now from a place of victory. I have to admit that I am very happy today that we didn’t buy that goat!

Despise Not Small Beginnings

In my description of our Total Money Makeover process, I refer to many sacrifices and changes we made in our lifestyle to pay down our debt with “Gazelle-like Intensity”. I am often asked about those practical things that we did and I am glad to share. It’s important however to preface these practical applications with two points.


First, frugality and financial sacrifice is not virtuous in and of itself. Strategizing, squeezing every dime out of your budget and obsessing over every purchase is not an ideal way to live for an extended amount of time. Anyone who has experienced financial hardship will tell you that they are more than relieved when their situation changes and they no longer have to live so close to the edge of their comfort zone. I believe that Christians are not meant to live in poverty, self-induced or otherwise. There are lean times when tightening the financial belt is a healthy response and much can be gleaned spiritually in the process but poverty itself is not a spiritual goal any more than attaining riches should be.


Second, the practical changes we made in our budget accounted for roughly one quarter of our debt reduction and some of them were practiced only during that specific time of our life. The remainder of our debt reduction was through the series of God-incidents that I am sharing with you. Our story is about God’s faithfulness as we put actions to our faith and embraced a debt-free lifestyle.

Several months into our debt-reduction journey, I was beginning to be weary of the continual stretching of my grocery dollars. I would start my Thursday shopping routine by attending Ladies Prayer at WCF. Although my prayers were directed by the group, I usually had an opportunity to intercede privately for our situation and for favor during the hours of marketing that awaited me afterwards.

I shopped a series of stores in a specific geographic area, purchasing the items that each store was competitively priced on. I usually packed a lunch, but some days there was little to pack so I would sometimes eat food from groceries I had just purchased.

I’ve always planned my meals and shopped with a list, but I now was utilizing a program on my palm pilot that inventoried the foods I purchased and their prices. I literally shopped to the last penny and price fluctuations could mean the difference between whether an item could be purchased or dropped off our list. It was stressful and took incredible focus and discipline to bypass sales and featured items that were not vital to our families needs.

To alleviate some of the discomfort of my shopping experience I began making a certain store my last stop because they sold fountain pop for $0.91. I made a game out of making sure that I got everything on my list and still would have the change left-over to buy my soda which was a welcome treat at the end of a shopping day.

On one hot, summer day, I found myself nearing the checkout of my final store with a little more than usual left-over after all my purchases. According to my calculations I would have more than enough for the pop and some extra dollars to add to the next week’s grocery budget. Just as I was checking out I spotted an item that had been on our grocery “wish list” for several weeks and it was exactly the amount I had left to spend. If I decided to buy it, there would be no money left over for the pop, but if I didn’t…there was no guarantee that there would be enough the following week if other necessities came up. I quickly decided to add it to my cart but immediately felt disappointed that I would have to bypass my weekly beverage treat. At this time we were drinking primarily water with the exception of rationed milk. The misery of having to make that choice when others were leaving the store with their carts piled high with whatever they wanted to buy weighed heavy on me that day.

I started to leave the store, but in frustration I decided that it was $0.91 and I would use some money I had in my purse designated for another purpose. It was my game and I was breaking the rules if I wanted to.

“Who lives like this?” I asked myself.

I pulled my cart up to the concession counter and ordered the soda. The clerk gave me a huge smile and explained that something unusual had happened just before I arrived. A person had ordered two pops, but had changed their mind after ordering. Instead of getting a refund, they had instructed the clerk to “give” their paid-for pop cup to the next person who came by. The clerk was upbeat and happy but my reaction was clearly not what she was expecting. I started to tremble and cry as I tried to explain in a flood of words what this meant to me and my day. I’m sure she didn’t understand a thing I was saying and was a little puzzled by my reaction, but I didn’t care. As far as I was concerned, GOD had given me this pop. I filled my cup and wept openly as I walked to my car, loaded my groceries, and drove home. It was the best soda I had in my entire life!

God knew all the things we were going through and how hard it was. The gift of a $0.91 pop meant so much to me and it gave me the encouragement I needed to stick with the plan and trust that my heavenly father knew my needs and wants and would take care of me. I was overwhelmed with His very personal love for me.

To this day, I cannot think about this event without tears. God has showered us with much greater displays of blessing since that time but it is still my favorite miracle because of its personal meaning and timely occurrence. This scenario had never happened to me before and has not happened again since. I rarely stop at that counter now as we currently can afford to buy some extra beverages in our weekly budget, but I will never forget what God did for me that day! He loves us and if we let Him, He wants to prove that we can trust Him with our lives…every part of them.

Right Where I'm Supposed to Be

Not long after we were blessed with the free elliptical for my home Personal Training studio, I received an inheritance from my paternal grandmother. She had passed away several months earlier after a period of frailty and illness. Although my sisters and I were sad to lose her, we were relieved that she was now experiencing freedom from her failing body and was reunited with our dad & grandpa in heaven.

An inheritance is a blessing. My sisters and I were astonished when we received our insurance checks because we weren’t expecting much. We were informed in the months before our grandma’s death that we would each be receiving a third of our deceased father’s portion. Our grandma had 5 sons and her lifestyle was very humble. We didn’t expect our gift to be substantial. Money amounts are relative to every person and although our sum wouldn’t be much to some, for us it was a significant thrust in the right direction.

The miracle wasn’t so much the provision of money due to my grandma’s generosity and wise planning, but the difference in how we spent the money. As we may have in the past, Shawn & I didn’t book a vacation or make a major purchase in reckless abandon. We had a plan and the money was considered and spent according. We gave a portion, paid off debts with a great portion and invested a portion…in paint, flooring, lighting and other materials that enabled my PT studio look esthetically pleasing to my target market: women.

I know my grandma would be happy with the lessons I had learned and that the money she left me was used in a manner that brought glory to God and catapulted our family closer to a life without debt and slavery.

As tax season approached we were surprised once again when some tax laws were introduced that allowed our children’s tuition to our church school be counted towards our charity contributions. Our children were no longer enrolled in WCFA and were now attending public school due to our severe cuts in spending, but the change in taxation law was retroactive and we received several year’s tax credit to claim on our income tax. We were overjoyed at this breakthrough in our finances. Again, we followed our decision to give, pay debts and invest.

Having left my job as a personal trainer for a major fitness chain to go into business for myself, I had willingly forfeited my job as a group fitness instructor. This was a necessary yet painful sacrifice as my fitness instructor position yielded little income and actually incurred expense as I was forced to pay for a quarterly fitness music subscription.

My intention after I stopped teaching classes was to use my accumulated fitness music and the corresponding instructional DVD’s for my own personal exercise. I soon realized however, that when the music was played, I would yearn for my class participants, remember how fun & exhilerating it was to teach a class and remember all the admiration I enjoyed as an instructor. A perfectly beautiful day would quickly cloud over when I started thinking about what I had left behind.

One particular Sunday afternoon I was washing the dishes while my husband cleaned up for our home mentor’s group. Shawn enjoyed using my upbeat tunes as a motivational charge for attacking housework. I instantly began to cry as memories flooded through me and I contemplated the choices I had made over the past couple months. Was leaving my job and starting my own business a mistake? Was I just imagining that God had opened wide the door to pursuing this dream and was going to bless me in it? I tearfully asked Shawn to turn off the music.

Even as I was explaining my feelings to my bewildered husband, the phone rang. A woman from church called to say that God had told her to give me her treadmill to use in my studio. He had told her a few weeks earlier but she had resisted until that moment. I didn’t know what to say. The tears of doubt and regret were still wet on my cheeks but I was instantly reassured that God was indeed providing for me and that somehow, I was exactly where I was supposed to be.

We never played that fitness music again. Some months later I emailed my former fitness co-workers and networked with some instructors throughout Canada & the U.S. I sold every single DVD/CD set and netted over $1000 towards our Total Money Makeover!

Debt-Free in my Heart

The day after our family made the decision to begin our Total Money Makeover, God blessed us in a miraculous way. I was on the phone with my youngest sister, Jaime, telling her about our radical decision to follow Dave’s plan and the ramifications it would have on my growing dream to open a fitness studio from my home. I had a collection of free-weights, a stability ball, a smith machine & bench, a barbell and a step, but if I wanted to have clients, I felt I needed at least one good cardio machine.

Shawn and I had debated about whether it would be better to buy a treadmill or an elliptical trainer. We live near a scenic trail so I was leaning towards the elliptical as an alternative to walking or jogging. Jaime listened patiently as I explained all these details. My lament was that we wouldn’t be getting either. In fact, my plans would proceed in a slow and limited way because we were using all our extra money to pay off debt and had eliminated all sources of credit. Starting a new business can be an expensive venture and I estimated that it would cost at least a thousand dollars for a quality piece of equipment.

Jaime interrupted me at that point and asked me to explain what an elliptical was and as I described it to her she got really excited. Apparently, a couple that attended her mentor’s group had recently offered Jaime an elliptical that they were trying to find an appreciative home for. They were looking for someone who would use it regularly and not as a clothes hanger! Jaime wasn’t interested and turned it down. Hello? Why didn’t she think of me before? She told me that she would call her friend right away to see if it was still available and within minutes I was told that the machine was ours for the taking. That wonderful couple was clearing out belongings in an effort to move to another part of the country and they also blessed me with a bar and some weight-plates. I was taken back and hyper with excitement.

Just when I had resigned myself to the limitations of our new financial decision, God had removed a huge obstacle from my path. The joy I felt at this provision was beyond any joy I had felt when making a significant purchase on credit. There was no second guessing, guilt, or burden of monthly payments. Instead, I was experiencing pure elation and joy at having a need met by a loving, heavenly father who knows us and wants to bless us.

I was encouraged in our decision. My husband laughed at me later when I told him that even though we had a long, tedious road of debt repayment in front of us....I felt debt-free in my heart. Yes, the bills were still there and the financial circumstances may be slow to change, but inside I was free and experiencing peace. It was only a matter of time before debt freedom would become a reality.

Isn’t it funny how this reflects our salvation experience? Sinners come to Christ and He wipes away years of sin through the power of his suffering on the cross and the glory of His resurrection. All we need to do is accept His gift, make a decision to follow His plan and we get to experience this awesome, life-changing reality of becoming “Debt-Free in Our Heart”. Yes, sometimes the result of our pasts are still affecting us, the circumstances of life are slow to change and we even mess up now and then, but it is only a matter of time before God’s work is perfected in us! Amen!

“You are the Problem with Your Money!”

On December 21, 2006, my husband & I sat down with our children around the computer which displayed our bleak financial situation. We made a decision that evening that has forever altered our destiny, second only to our commitment to accept Jesus as Lord of our lives. In actuality, we were making Christ the Lord of our life in a very real and practical way that we never had before and the impact of that choice continues to resonate with blessings beyond our imagination. We decided to do a total money makeover following the Baby Steps set out in Dave Ramsey’s book appropriately named “The Total Money Makeover”.

Shawn & I were roughly $40,000 in debt over and above our mortgage and steadily spending more money every month than our two incomes provided. We were never late making our payments and outwardly we looked fine, doing better than a lot of other people. We weren’t bad spenders by our standards. We tithed, paid our bills, had a comfortable home in a nice neighborhood, and owned 3 vehicles along with the average stuff that the “normal” family enjoys. Our vehicles were used; we didn’t have cable or satellite, no bad habits to speak of…so why didn’t we have any money? My husband had monthly child support payments that also ate into the income that wasn’t paying the mortgage, the credit cards, and a hefty consolidation loan.

Inwardly, though, we were sick. There was no joy in giving when it felt like it was leading us further down the path of debt. It felt wrong. There was little joy in purchasing anything because any satisfaction was dulled by the keen realization that we were sinking deeper into a pit that we would never get out of. Our marriage that was once passionate and full of dreams for the future had dwindled down to sacrificial tolerance after years of arguments and outright fights that usually were rooted in money issues. As a wife I was tired of feeling guilty for buying groceries or necessities for our family and the part-time jobs that had stolen my attention from the most precious years with my children. My husband went to work every day to a job he didn’t really enjoy but paid an enviable wage that kept us afloat. We were tired, angry, desperate and becoming increasingly cynical about our faith and its ability to play a part in everyday life. How could we share our faith? Who would want to be like us?

We had tried to fix our financial problem. We prayed daily for God to rescue us from our problems. We worked more hours and would go on spending diets that would lead to spending binges when we were too tired and stressed to care anymore. We refinanced. We couldn’t resist entering any free sweepstakes or contests and gave to our church as though we were playing a spiritual lottery. One day that answer to all our prayers would arrive in our mailbox and all our problems would go away. Of course, that didn’t happen and we were smart enough to realize that we didn’t have the answers so we decided to find people wiser than us and ask what we should do. We called my dad.

Dad sat down with Shawn and went over our bills and budget. We weren’t asking for money but he suggested that we take a sum from him and apply it to certain debts that had high interest. After that, if we didn’t spend any money over and above our budget for a whole year, we would be in good shape. I looked at dad like he had two heads. How in the world would we stop the flow of spending that had shaped our entire marriage for a year?! Dad encouraged us and sent us away with his generous loan, but a year later we owed almost exactly what we had the year before…plus the money my dad had provided. We all learned later that loaning money to family is very risky to relationships because it changes to a servant/master dynamic that is destructive. That didn’t happen in our case, but we know others who have experienced problems due to this “solution”.

The following year, realizing that we had failed once again, I sat down with my mom and shared my frustration with her. I reassured her that we would repay the loan and that we weren’t looking for more help in that way, but we were unhappy and nothing was working for us. We needed some kind of help because you just can’t continue to spend more money than you make year after year without hitting a wall. I didn’t want to hit that wall. This time, my mom had a different solution to offer and I am forever grateful that she told me about a book that offered a strategy that really works. My sister, Jaime and my brother, Brian were both using the principles and they were doing well financially as a result. The church was using the book as a resource for the finance class and she suggested I take it. I was hungry for real change as other issues were surfacing in my life so I listened to her wise advice.

I didn’t have much time for reading so I found Dave Ramsey’s “Total Money Makeover” in audio format at www.audible.com and it happened to be on sale half price that very day. I downloaded the book and started to listen. Dave’s punchy humor made me laugh even as his sharp, admonishing words sliced through my heart. “You are the problem with your money!”, he yelled and I knew he was right. I was riveted for 5 consecutive hours, listening late into the night and when the book was finished, I had a vision of what our future could and would be for the first time in my life. Real hope. This was the answer to all those prayers we had prayed. There was a sense of urgency too, like the clock was ticking and God had provided us this opportunity to get our finances in order in preparation for changes in the economy to come.

I gave the recording to my husband the next morning. I repented for the ways my behavior had hindered us from having healthier finances and looking him in the eyes told him that I thought we were capable of doing Dave’s plan. I believed once we began going in the right direction that God would help us. I was willing to make the sacrifice and was certain that we would be out of debt in two years if we followed the steps. Shawn wasn’t excited right away. He would listen to it but we had been down a long road and he was cautious of false hope. I knew he would love the whole idea once he heard it because Shawn’s dream to be debt-free had been spoken many times. It was me who thought being debt-free was unrealistic.

I watched Shawn eagerly while he listened that evening. He laughed too and would stop now and then and tell me “This guy is good!”. Afterwards, we discussed our situation seriously alone and with the kids. It wasn’t going to be easy but neither was being in debt and broke and we were going to be “gazelle-intense”. We weren’t going to protect our children from the sacrifice but we were excited that they would also benefit from the eventual rewards and in the process learn from our mistakes.

We began our journey that night and I am excited to share our story with you in the days to come. If our experience can help others get victory in their finances then we are willing to expose our most personal failures, trials and victories. Our hope is that you too, will benefit as we have. Join me as I share the first of many miracles we experienced on the road to financial freedom.